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Sunday, January 20, 2019

~~ [Weekly Prompts – 19.03]: This is us ~~

Originally written on Jan 18 2019

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Hey guys, how was the week that has gone by!?! Mine was just so and so, mostly because, I am sleep deprived this week.  But hey, am not complaining. The main reason for that is my own plummeting self-restraint to not postpone the time to go to bed so I can just watch one more episode from this series on Amazon Prime – This is us. The only time I get to watch the episodes is after the little one goes to bed, and so I am compromising a bit on sleep, but not for long as I am already nearing the end of available episodes, and well, the sleep deprivation so far, is worth it. All thanks to Pratishtha (an amazing writer who is in hibernation from writing which she shouldn’t be) who referred the series to me. Lady, thank you  though it cost me my beauty sleep Now, you gotta compensate for this by writing something surreal so we can justify your hibernation and my under-eye dark circles – will you please write already?
So, I do intend to catch up on sleep this weekend and I do plan to add an additional goal to my this year goal-list – Go to bed on time – and as I type this, I can only hear myself saying the same to my kid, every day after each story I narrate to her. Anyways, no more sleep deprivation for any heart-tugging amazing series or social media. Nope.
Now coming back to the series, I love the subtle heartwarming family drama. Every scene is as meaningful as the other – Every other quote memorable. The relationship dynamics, the love & trust in a marriage, the warmth that only parents or siblings can provide, the happiness of belonging, the search fueled by not belonging, the silences that convey more, the conversations that convey nothing, the conversations that are not meant to be but still happens hurting beyond repair, those tiny moments from childhood with your parents which molds you and influences how you handle a similar situation later in life, those teen age addictions, those self doubts, the haughtiness that comes with being good at everything, the self doubt that creeps when that one thing you like the most is snatched away from you, the unsaid emotions, the neglect, the love, the care, the understanding, the sibling rivalry, the sibling bonding, the marriage issues, the things you invariably do when you can’t do anything about something, oh, all of it and much more just simply woven beautifully scene after scene. Each episode leaves you with this weird-cosy-heart wrenching-numb-happy-sad-fun-tear jerking-beautiful-subtly-warm feeling. Each episode has managed to pull on my heartstrings and with only few more episodes to go, I am sure, I will feel empty for a while after.
I love all the characters with their positives as much as flaws. I cannot pick favorites as there are many lovely memorable moments in each episode, but, of all, I keep going back to this scene, where a young lady asks a dying old man on how it feels to know that one is dying. And the response is
“It feels like all these beautiful pieces of life are flying around me and I’m trying to catch them. When my granddaughter falls asleep in my lap, I try to catch the feeling of her breathing against me. And when I make my son laugh, I try to catch the sound of him laughing. How it rolls up from his chest. But the pieces are moving faster now, and I can’t catch them all. I can feel them slipping through my fingertips. And soon where there used to be my granddaughter breathing and my son laughing, there will be… nothing. I know it feels like you have all the time in the world. But you don’t. So, stop playing it so cool. Catch the moments of your life. Catch them while you’re young and quick. Because sooner than you know it, you’ll be old. And slow. And there’ll be no more of them to catch. And when a nice boy who adores you offers you pie, say thank you.”
You’ll probably get the reference about the pie and the nice boy only if you watch the episode, but never mind, this scene is just beautiful.
There’s also this other scene, where that nice boy from the previous excerpt, inadvertently blabbers about “Death” to his unsuspecting tiny young nieces who have probably no idea about what “Death” is. The conversation turns awkward when the kids realize that their parents can and will die someday too! Well, the thought is quite scary, even for adults, right? And to make up for the blunder, the nice boy (his name is Kevin BTW), then, attempts to set things right and explains death from his perspective with a painting –
“I painted this because I felt like the play was about life, you know? And life is full of color. And we each get to come along and we add our own color to the painting, you know? And even though it’s not very big, the painting, you sort of have to figure that it goes on forever, you know, in each direction. So, like, to infinity, you know? ‘Cause that’s kind of like life, right? And it’s really crazy, if you think about it, isn’t it, that a hundred years ago, some guy that I never met came to this country with a suitcase. He has a son, who has a son, who has me. So, at first, when I was painting, I was thinking, you know, maybe up here, that was that guy’s part of the painting and then, you know, down here, that’s my part of the painting. And then I started to think, well, what if we’re all in the painting, everywhere? And what if we’re in the painting before we’re born? What if we’re in it after we die? And these colors that we keep adding, what if they just keep getting added on top of one another, until eventually we’re not even different colors anymore? We’re just one thing. One painting. I mean, my dad is not with us anymore. He’s not alive, but he’s with us. He’s with me every day. It all just sort of fits somehow. And even if you don’t understand how yet, people will die in our lives, people that we love. In the future. Maybe tomorrow. Maybe years from now. I mean, it’s kind of beautiful, right, if you think about it, the fact that just because someone dies, just because you can’t see them or talk to them anymore, it doesn’t mean they’re not still in the painting. I think maybe that’s the point of the whole thing. There’s no dying. There’s no you or me or them. It’s just us.”
See, what I mean? Maybe not. But for me, it felt right. Because, Kevin doesn’t get too many quote-worthy lines to his credit in the series and probably to make up for it, he was given this whole piece of paragraph, you know?! There are so many such moments throughout the series which pushes all the right buttons to make you fall in love with the characters and of course, the series. Okay, enough about it, I guess. Do go watch and let me know how you liked it. No, that’s not the prompt.  And yes, sleep deprivation over it,  not recommended.
So, the prompt for you this week is to write a story revolving around a family along the lines of – Theda hai but mera hai – as in “Crazy, Weird, Twisted but Mine”. Write about a family which is as weird, crazy, twisted, different as any other family, but at the end of the day, no one would want it away or any different.
And oh, I will be super glad if you choose to write on your own one-of-a-kind family  (I am sure, each one of us has one such) instead of a fictionalized version.
Go on, choose real or fiction and then write!!
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If you attempt this prompt – Thank you ðŸ™‚ and
  • Please make sure you leave a tag “Weekly Prompts – 2019” on your posts.
  • Please link the post that gives out the prompts for the week when you post your response to the prompt (so people know where it all started)
  • For the folks who want to know where it all originally started – refer here 

~~ [Weekly Prompts – 19.02]: When I Grow Up ~~

Originally written on Jan 11 2019
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So, this happened yesterday.
I asked my daughter, a question – the same question we all were asked umpteen number of times when we were kids. I asked her what she wanted to be when she grew up. This is not the first time I have asked her this. Every time I have asked her this in the past, she always has said, “You”. It’s an amazing feeling when your kids tell you they want to be like you, right? So, well, maybe, sometimes, just sometimes, I ask her this to hear her responding with a “YOU” all over again and feel good about myself 😛 – hey, like I said, only sometimes.
There was this one time, where she did try to figure out, what that meant and the outcome was this(you have to click the hyperlink and read that post)! But never mind, my little girl wanted to be like me and it couldn’t get any better that that.
Yesterday was one such “sometime” where I wanted to hear a “YOU”  but, boy, was I in for a surprise or what!?
As I was anticipating the response, she screamed – wait for it – “A lazy girl”! 
Yes, that’s what my little one said yesterday. The word “Gobsmacked” doesn’t do justice to whatever I felt when she revealed what she wanted to be and I was holding my breath, wide eyed, waiting for her to follow it with a “just like you” but thank God, she didn’t.
I was about to exhale and that’s when she chose to follow it with a “Just likeeeeeeeeeeeeeee” .  I was about to scream a “Nooooooooooooo” when I heard her say “Ajja. See, Ajja doesn’t have to do anything, he just gets up, lazes around, listens to Carvaan and goes to sleep”. Ajja is her grandfather, my dad. I heard him chuckle somewhere in his room. My mom who was in the kitchen burst out laughing. And I exhaled to my relief.  The kid has her future sorted out, don’t you think?
Well, kids observe everything, and you have to be careful around them, like in this case, though it was funny, it might turn out be my worst nightmare later. So, after the laughter subsided, which was very confusing for my kid as I think she was quite serious when she answered what she did, I decided, I had to ask her the same question in a different way and I did.  I will write a mommy memoir on that sometime later.
This post was to give out the prompt and so, for this week’s prompt, tell us about how you answered this question in your childhood – I am pretty sure none of us envisioned ourselves in front of a computer/laptop screen. I know, NONE OF US, right?  All of us might have had dreams of doing something else/becoming someone else, of course, until, life happened. So write about that kid that you were, with a different dream and a different passion and if you want, how you ended up here, good or bad? I know we can pursue dreams even with this job, and if that’s the case, write how you managed to do so. If it’s too personal, you can also fictionalize this prompt and weave a story around childhood dreams turning into passion or otherwise. You get to decide! Go on, write 🙂
If you attempt this prompt – Thank you 🙂 and
  • Please make sure you leave a tag “Weekly Prompts – 2019” on your posts.
  • Please link the post that gives out the prompts for the week when you post your response to the prompt (so people know where it all started)
  • For the folks who want to know where it all started – refer here 

~~ [Weekly Prompts – 19.01]: Happy New Year ~~

Originally written on Jan 4 2019

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Hellozzzzzzzz!
A very happy and prosperous new year everyone  Hope this year brings you much joy and may all your little and big wishes come true  
Am back from the much needed vacation. I didn’t do much except for spending quality time with my near and dear ones – I loved it as I had expected. People who know me well, know that I maintain multiple to-do lists. And believe me, these lists can be used to define infinity! They are never ending and stuff just gets added to these lists every few hours. So when I decided about taking this vacation with no plans of going anywhere, all thanks to my husband’s travel postponement,  I had also decided that I was not going to refer these lists during the vacation and just let it be. I get this immense pleasure striking off things from these lists and I wanted to experience a week without having that particular joy. And that’s exactly what I did. And surprise, surprise, no hell broke loose. I could survive the week Sometimes you do need to do it – forget the to-do’s, forget the never ending lists, not go anywhere, not plan anything, not worry about the next thing on the list and live, just live, just like that, in the moment! I loved it, but, well, I am back to maintaining the lists now  I cannot survive for long without them 
How about you? What did you do? Let me know 
Considering this is the first post and the first prompt of the year  – I decided to have the most cliched topic at this time of the year , as a prompt,  yes, of course, the new year resolutions!! What are your this year’s resolutions? Go on, write about it and let’s then come back end of the year to check what we have accomplished from the list.
Now, I do know, not all believe in new year resolutions and then, there are also those who do not want to reveal them for reasons best known to them – which is okay! So if you do not want to go about writing a new year resolution post for this prompt, write a funny story involving a protagonist who is too serious about his/her resolutions for the year but everything he/she planned for the year goes haywire
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If its not too much to ask –
  • Please make sure you leave a tag “Weekly Prompts – 2019” on your posts. At the end of year, it would be easier for me to pull some statistics about how this year fared due to these prompts 🙂
  • Please link the post that gives out the prompts for the week when you post your response to the prompt (so people know where it all started – I had a couple of folks asking me what’s the deal with the prompts and this might help with answers)
  • For the folks who want to know where it all started – refer here 

~~ [A Year In Prompts]: Retrospective ~~

Originally written on Dec 21 2018

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Year 2018 is about to end and another hopefully happening year is just around the corner.  Isn’t it so true that time waits for none? Its fascinating that the years just roll by – waiting for nothing.. And with every passing year,  you grow a little, you learn a little, you un-learn a bit, you re-learn a few things and the cycle continues – year after year…

I am officially OOO from Monday and I am back to work only after new year. It was supposed to be a planned vacation.  We had a few places shortlisted for a short trip, but at the end of all the planning, nothing really materialized as my husband who was supposed to be back early next week from his official trip, had to stay back for some more months! Thankfully, we had anticipated this and hadn’t booked anything – Cancellation would have been a pain.
Once I came to know about my husband’s plans, I thought of cancelling my planned leaves of next week and saving those leaves for later, but then, after much thinking, I decided finally that I do need a break. My brother’s here, my daughter has her Christmas vacations too.. I work with Agile scrum project teams, so, the sprint/work is already planned, and there’s nothing critical going on (thankfully) from the work front..I saw no particular reason to cancel my leaves..
Speaking of working with Agile scrum teams, there’s this interesting scrum exercise that we do, at the end of every sprint (a sprint is a duration of a few weeks, anywhere from 1 to 4, where the team commits and delivers working functionality). Its called a sprint retrospective and involves the team looking back at the sprint that just completed and discuss 3 main aspects.
  1. What went well ? <Continue doing whatever it was if it helps>
  2. What did not go well ? <Identify action items and/or stop doing it, whichever works better>
  3. What actions can we take to improve further/What could have been better <Identify new action items to make things better for everyone involved>
This is done every sprint end so the team can retrospect and identify corrective measures for the immediate next sprint that starts.  It helps team to inspect and adapt to changes every few weeks.
So with the year coming to an end, the prompt for you is to consider 2018 as your sprint,  retrospect and share your “Continue doing/Stop doing/Start doing” goals!
As for me, I am off to set my OOO automatic replies 🙂 🙂
Happy holidays, Merry Christmas and A Very Happy New Year everyone 🙂

~~[A Year In Prompts] : Dreams ~~

Originally written on Dec 14 2018...
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TGIF!! How was the week that’s gone by? Mine was quite busy with work, function at home and a colleague’s wedding.  Looking forward to a silent weekend.
I have to mention – It was heartwarming to note that most of you wanted me to continue the prompt series in the new year! That’s really good to know. It will definitely challenge me, to collate a few of my thoughts and try to come up with an interesting prompt every single post.  Let me dream big and aim for those 52 prompt – posts next year!
Speaking of dreams – Don’t they seem very very real, until you wake up to the sound of the cooker’s whistle or the alarm clock? I am sure all of us dream. Some say its the inner desire that manifests itself as dreams, and I believed the same too, for a long time, until I dreamt of someone very close and very dear to me, dying. It felt so real – I had to wake up and I did. Not that I knew I was dreaming, but it did not feel right to see that lovely person die even if it was in a dream, if you get what I mean. It was definitely not one of my inner desires at all. I have a few books on my to-read list which deals with dreams, but I haven’t been a fan of non-fiction ever, so though an interesting area, I am planning to pick it up for reading sometime later in life, when I am more older and maybe wiser 😛
There are only a few dreams that I remember vividly and I remember them as they made me sad. Then, there are those days where I know I did dream, but I don’t remember much of it, except the fact that everything in the dream felt real.  Sometimes, it so happens, that you are still hungover on the dream as soon as you wake up and instead of spending a minute or two thinking about it, you decide that you’ll park the “analysis” for later in the day, the mundane activities for the day takes over and then the dream just slips. This has happened with me, many a times, where I know I have dreamt something surreal and I remembered it at the time I woke up, but had to park it for later in the day, and then for the life of me, couldn’t remember what it was. I don’t like that feeling a bit. I feel cheated that I cannot recollect my own dream 😛
So, I have made it a point to not rush in those first few minutes as I wake up for the day. It needs a lot of self restraint to just lie there and think about dreams for few minutes when you have so many things to do before you leave for office, but I still do it. Sometimes absolute laziness helps, you see, am not a morning person 😛  I lay on my bed for a few minutes after I wake up every morning and try to think about the dream, if there were any. I practice the same with my daughter as she wakes up for the day. After wishing her a bright morning , I ask her if she has had a dream and if yes, who was in it and what had happened. I narrate her my dream if I have had one. That’s our morning routine before we begin the activities of the day forward.  When she has nothing to offer, she says, “Naaa…Just Deeeeeeeep sleeeeeeeeep, ” and we get on with the day 😛
So, do you dream? Do you remember them? Do you analyse your dream? Have you experienced any specific dreams unfold in reality and felt a sense of De Ja Vu!?
As a prompt for this week, try to narrate an interesting dream that you have ever had. If you don’t have one or you don’t want to reveal any of your own dreams(which is okay), then write a fictional story with dreams as the theme – the only condition – the story that’s unfolding as we read should be, in actual, a dream – Yeah, Inception mode on!!
Go on, write write write 🙂

~~ [A Year In Prompts]: A Thousand Miles ~~

Originally written on Dec 7 2018...
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Yayyyy!! Happy Friday Everyone!! My brother’s arriving on his yearly vacation tomorrow and am going to have some super crazy busy fun weekends/weeks ahead ! Looking forward to all the fun and the fights, of course 
And double yayyyyy!!!! I finally see more bloggers writing for these weekly prompts  I was so close to giving up on this weekly exercise, but then your posts helped me with the required boost to keep it going through the last few weeks left in the year (yes, its too late now, so please do keep writing) .. Mighty Thanks to everyone who has attempted writing on these weekly prompts!
Prabha asked me if I intend to continue this exercise in the next year  and well, I haven’t decided yet. To be frank, if you look at it, this definitely helps me to keep my blog space alive by setting a deadline for myself to post at least once a week. So that’s there. Apart from that, it also makes me happy when the otherwise deserted organization blog space (I tell you, it was not like this before, this space used to be alive with interesting blog posts by the hour) at least has some fun posts because of these prompts. But before I decide, I’d also like to know what you as a reader/blogger think? Do you think we should continue this weekly saga? Do the prompts help you at all ? And most importantly, do you promise to write on every single prompt like Ramanujam does diligently  Let me know.  Your responses/no responses will definitely help me decide.  And if I dare to continue, I would like to maybe do it a bit differently –  so if you have any ideas or suggestions to make this more interesting for all involved, I am all ears 🙂
Now, back to the prompt – have you heard Vanessa Carlton’s “A Thousand Miles” ?  No? Go, check it out in youtube.  It’s one of my favorites. I took up walking (to reduce weight, of course) a few days back (yes, acting on my year’s resolutions, and, no, not an early start of 2019 resolutions , its just that, when I published the previous post on the conversation that happened way back in 2016,  I felt its’ time I take that doctor’s advice seriously and act upon my every year’s topmost resolution ) and this keeps playing in loop during my walk.
Back to the song, it is a heartbreak song, a song for a loved one who is no more or a song for someone who is miles away from you and has drifted apart but you haven’t, a song of yearning and related loneliness – well, take your pick!
The challenge for you is to listen to the song, understand the mood, the feelings being conveyed and then spin a story around the same.  I’d also like you to use “A thousand miles” and the following beginning lines of the song, if you can, somewhere in your story.
“Making my way downtown walking fast, Faces pass and I’m home bound…. Staring blankly ahead, just making my way, making my way through the crowd”
Go on, listen to the song and then write!

~~ [A Year In Prompts] : Embarrassed much? ~~

Originally written on  Dec 1 2018

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So, I was clearing the clutter on my dekstop today morning and I found this old post of mine in a subfolder within a subfolder within a subfolder within the 2016 folder (yes, I love that nested folder structure for some reason), saved as a txt file with the title “Eat apples, keeps doctors away”  That year, I remember, I had thought of running a “Facepalm’ed” series… I had written this very draft, in probably an attempt to do that, but never published it for whatever reasons … and I had forgotten about this post totally until I stumbled upon it today..If you have read few of my old posts, you probably by now know that I can very easily put myself into very embarrassing situations..It happens quite effortlessly .. This is one such of the so many I have!  Well, go ahead, read on! If not life lessons, it would at-least help you with a laugh or two (hopefully)!
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I was down with cold and fever – I went to a nearby hospital to avoid the long wait at the family doctor’s clinic. Well, that did not, in anyways help, I ended up waiting more and as a bonus, got facepalm’ed too , big time! After the initial process of registration and a few hours of waiting for the doctor, it was finally my turn. Here’s how the conversation went –
Me (*pained-smiles*):  Good afternoon, Doctor  (I definitely stressed on the afternoon in a hope that it would indicate that I was here from morning)
Doctor (*ignoring-the-delay-and-jumping-right-to the-matter-at-hand*): Hello, how are you? You know, you should lose some of that weight!
Me (*startled* *caught off guard* *question-mark-on-my-face*): Huh? Hmmm, Well, Sure Doctor, but, right now, I am suffering from cold, cough and fever
Doctor  (*royally-ignoring-my-problem-statement*) : You definitely should lose some weight
Me (*close-to-rolling-my-eyes*): Hmm, Ok, Sure Doctor, so, as I said, I am suffering from cold, cough and fever
Doctor (*rolling-his-eyes*): Were you always like this? Or is this a recent weight gain?
Me (*question-mark*) : Huh?  Well, no Doctor, I was very thin. This weight, well, this is just post pregnancy-delivery weight gain..
I looked at the nurse standing nearby, with, am sure, an amused quizzical expression, but the nurse was of no help, she just stared right back at me, waiting probably for a go-ahead from the doctor to prep her weapon – The Injection. Before I could get overwhelmed by the fear of needles – I turned my focus back to Doctor and I decided that if this went on, I’d ask if I had by mistake entered the dietitian’s cabin in the same floor –
Doctor (*looking-relieved*) : Oh, then its fine, you will lose it in some months..
Me (*big-grin* *shrug* *finally-topic-might-change*) : Yes, Doctor….
Doctor: So you have cold, cough, fever? Did you check the temperature? Runny nose? Scratchy throat? Shivering?
Me: Yes, temperature was 100 in the morning when I left from home(see what I did there? ), no runny nose, but, yes, I do have slight throat pain – as in, it pains when I try to swallow food..
Doctor: Okay – let me check, open your mouth, say, aaaaaaaaaaaa
Me: Aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa
Doctor (*checks my throat*) : Hmm.. seems to be a throat infection. Let me prescribe some antibiotics, take ample rest, come back tomorrow if fever doesn’t go down, we will then decide if we need to do a blood test
Me (*me-fervently-praying-for-fever-to-go-down-and-thanking-God-no-injection-today-yayyy*): So I need not come again if fever goes down today and just continue the same medicine?Right? 
Doc: Yes, but, Oh, before I prescribe antibiotics, how old is your baby?
Me: 5
Doctor (*looking-relieved* *scribbling-prescription*) : Oh, 5 months , well, hmmm. Dont worry, give it a few more months. With some exercise when you get time, all this post-delivery weight will be gone…
Me (*startled*) : Ahem, no Doctor, not months, years 
Doctor (*amused*) : WHAT? What years? You dont need years to lose this 5 month post-delivery weight gain..a little walking when you get time and a bit of exercise, and you will be fine..
Me (*clearing-my-throat*) : Well, no, I meant, she is 5 years old, not 5 months
Doctor  (*shocked*) : WHAT?  
Nurse (*suppressing-giggles*)   
Me (*sheepish-grin*) : My baby is 5 years old 
Doctor (*with-almost-a-pained-expression*) : Well, in that case, you should stop calling this as post pregnancy-delivery weight and do something about it, don’t you think? 
Me (*Facepalm* *Facepalm* *Facepalm*) : Yes Doctor 
Nurse  
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Oh, before I forget, the week’s prompt is to write about the most embarrassing moment of your life (if there are many, go ahead and list it out, the more the merrier, let’s spread some laughs)..
You can also write a story inspired from the most embarrassing situation of yours or if you want to be evil – of others 
Go ahead, write and leave a comment here with the post link!!