~~ Mommy's Best Policy ~~ Blog-week-athon post # 1

I am a mommy of a 3+ year old and even after these 3+ so-called years of mommy experience, I still am at a loss of words when few comments are passed at my mommy skills!

I know very very well that all mommies (no, this post is not only for the mommies, so non-mommy population can still continue reading) will definitely agree with me…. I also know that all naïve to-be mommies may feel what the big deal is (well, I know where you come from as I was one of you just a few years back) ….. And the rest of the population might just skip reading from here thinking that this definitely is some mommy rant   …. 

Well, what can I say, being a mommy is definitely the most bestest and wonderful feeling (provided the other experienced mommies around, let you feel so or you resort to adopting a second best policy in life)

To continue, the comments on mommy skills, usually & mostly comes from the more experienced mommies…There are lots and lots to mention, but the one that has tested my patience and has made me to finally post this, is,

“Oh my… your kid has grown so thin… Do you feed the kid enough…?”

 This is when,

• I don’t fail to notice  that even I can just say – Oh yeah? Same pinch mommy dearest… 
• I have never ever seen a dip in the weigh scale reading
• I have just managed to get the kid complete her meals, by running around the house, singing her favorite songs, enacting a creative drama to hold her attention during the course of the meal, watching the same old Chota Bheem aur neeli pahadi for the nth time….
• I have lost the appetite to have something myself coz of all the hard work that went into feeding her!
• I have just managed to glance at the empty glass of milk & sport a contented smile that her day’s quota of milk intake is accomplished!

Oh, I can go on and on…you get the picture, don’t you?

I used to respond to these comments with data earlier (the quantities of food, volume of milk, the number of fruits, the kind of vegetables, the dal preparation method etc etc etc.) ..

However, as I grew as a mommy, I learnt, every other person cannot be pleased.  You can even get a pediatrician certify that you have been doing everything right for your kid, but it wouldn't satisfy the experienced mommy who passed that comment!   

Sometimes I can’t help but wonder what makes other mommies pass such comments?

Is it concern for the kid’s health ?  Well, if it is, I would rather welcome them to stay back for a couple of days & see to it that the kid is getting enough food (and certify the fact that the mommy is not eating out of the kids plate)!  

Is it a concern for the mommy?hmmmmm.......thinkinnnnnngggggggggg……… and still thinkinggggggg….

If not for these 2 concerns, is it just a self-satisfaction process of considering self a much better mommy..? If yes, then, isn't there something supremely wrong in feeling like a super mommy by just belittling the effort spent by the other one…

Well, though I have used the mommy example, this happens at very single junction in life!  At every step, there are people commenting on the way you talk, dress, walk, eat, read, write, laugh, choose a career path, choose a life partner and the list never ends! But why? There are only a few who do it out of love or genuine concern! Others probably do it just to feel really great about self!

Anyways, handling such multiple situations, I have finally understood with EXPERIENCE that there is no point validating self to anyone!! From time immemorial, I have always always heard and believed that honesty is the best policy..!!! Well, but you know what; IGNORANCE is the second best policy ever! Honestly!  Tried and tested and 100% effective!   Believe me, it’s fun to watch the reactions this kindles when practiced!!!

Blog-week-athon? Blog-weekend-athon?

Well,  how else am I going to ensure I write every now and then! This seems to be the only way! 

Setting a goal for self  - but then, a realistic goal since I know my own limitations of being a working mom juggling between home, work and travel (yes, travel is important and needs a mention as this is the most "constant" thing that has stayed in my life for almost a decade now :P) !  

So yes, I am going to start a Blogathon! But a tweaked one at that!! I am going to try very hard to stick to this resolution and post "atleast" once a week(preferably over the weekend)!  What do I call this now - Blog-week-athon? Blog-weekend-athon?

Any other name suggestions?!?!?!

Present Sir & Madam!!

Yes, I am very much present! Not probably in my own blog space! But I am reading a few blog posts here and there!!

So, what inspired this post on a random day? Well, let me be very honest, this was not a random choice nor am I trying to blow my own trumpet here, but a very kind fellow blogger (as you already might know from my "simple ever intro post", I do blog in an organization internal blogosphere) mailed me to check why there were no posts from me for about 7 months now… He also went to the extent of sending me a link to a wiki page which explained the history of my surname and made me aware of a fact that the word itself means a writer(again, not calling self a writer by any means, but just quoting wiki)! 

Phew, after he had gone to such lengths, I couldn’t just sit back & send a “thank you, am flattered, you made my day” kinda reply (Which I anyways did) and hence this attendance post today!  

While I am still thinking about a topic, I got reminded of the recent “Wife” as “Boss” Ad that seem to have created a lot of buzz in the media and also was a recent topic of discussion with my lunch buddies & cousins whatsapp group!  The first thing that came to my mind after watching that ad, was, the guy’s/husband’s status reporting in the next day meeting..

“Err, you know what, I was working and I would have completed this module yesterday, but my wife invited me home for dinner (a feast at that), and who, by the way, is my boss, and who, by the way, is you, and who, by the way, could have stayed back and helped me complete my module, than going home and cooking an elaborate meal!!”

Phew, anyone out there with same/similar thoughts? Staying back and helping out would have been my preference in the scenario and I would have expected my hubby to have done the same for me! I even went to the extent of thinking that they could have later had a little takeaway dinner or a pizza night! Of course they can afford a cook too, if they can afford a chauffeur for their car!! Well, but, then, the whole concept of the Ad was on the video calling experience & the quality of the call :P  Though I could relate to it in a way & it was quite a cute “video” moment and all, for me, honestly,  it didn’t convey the right message
 
Well, that’s just my 2 cents & am no where close to being an expert in advertising business

I know, lot of you must be thinking, “Oh God, you watch the Ads too, okay, you watch, but you review them too “!    Well, yes, I do and nowadays, I prefer watching Ads than most of the meaningless mega serials that goes on and on for years… At times I feel, that Ads are the only innovative, refreshing & meaningful stuff played on TV these days

What do you feel??